Everyone talks about standing out in sales.
Differentiate. Personalize. Add value.
But thereâs a deeper truth no one says out loud:
You canât sell to someone whose brain is on autopilot.
And most salespeople walk straight into that trap.
Thatâs why two of the most powerful minds in persuasionâone from the boardroom, the other from behavioral researchâlanded on the same insight:
People donât notice what they expect.
And people donât trust what feels too eager.
One was a negotiation coach who trained FBI hostage teams and Fortune 500 execs.
The other? A pair of brothers who studied why some ideas stickâand others vanish.
They say:
âHope your weekâs off to a great start!â
The brain hears:
âThis is a sales email.â
They say:
âWe help companies like yoursâŠâ
The brain hears:
âSame old pitch.â
They say:
âJust following upâŠâ
The brain hears:
âTime to delete.â
đ Thatâs not rejection.
Thatâs your message getting vacuumed into the mental spam folderâwithout them even realizing it.
Pattern = comfort.
Comfort = sleep.
Sleep = no sale.
If your prospect can predict what youâre going to say before you say it, youâve already lost the deal.
Want attention?
Break the pattern.
âThe most basic way to get someoneâs attention is this: Break a pattern.â
âMade to Stick
Thatâs not just true for storytelling.
Itâs the lifeblood of great discovery.
Because the brain has a built-in radar for surprise.
When something breaks the expected rhythm, it stops.
It pays attention.
It says: âWaitâwhat just happened?â
Thatâs your window.
Hereâs what Jim Camp knew before it was cool:
If you start by trying to be liked, youâve already given up control.
Saying ânoâ first?
Asking âWhy not?â instead of âWhy us?â
Refusing to pitch too early?
Thatâs pattern interruption.
And itâs not a tactic.
Itâs a philosophy.
It says:
âIâm not here to win you over. Iâm here to understand your world.â
Thatâs jarring.
And in a world of needy salespeople, itâs magnetic.
Hereâs a real example.
Most reps start discovery like this:
âCan you walk me through your current process?â
Nothing wrong with that.
But itâs a lullaby.
Try this instead:
âBefore we even talk about changing anythingâwhatâs working so well today that youâd fight to protect it?â
Boom.
Pause.
Watch what happens.
The prospect sits up.
Their brain wakes up.
And now youâre actually talking.
Because when you break the pattern,
you donât just earn attention. You earn honesty.
One more thing.
Pattern interruption isnât about being gimmicky.
Itâs not a stunt.
Itâs about respect.
Because nothing says âI value your timeâ
like refusing to sound like everyone else.
P.S.
If this felt like therapy... good.
We invoice in emotional breakthroughs, not billable hours.
The Buyer Shrink
đïž Guilty until proven innocent.
How do you pack so many punches into one single post? This is such a powerful piece đ„